I’m
not sure why or when I became interested in sports. Maybe it’s
because I noticed certain freedoms associated with them. The freedom
to physically move around, the freedom to compete or to make instant
decisions on my own were, in my mind, all related to playing a
sport. I do know that as early as age three I was discouraged from
playing sports by everyone around me. Instead of a ball I was given
a doll. I had to wear dresses instead of pants. I was encouraged
to cook and sew and especially, to slow down. Don’t be so
active.
.....When I was nine
years old I became a marble fanatic. I played what was known as
Ring Taw marbles. We would draw a circle 2 feet wide with a
stick in the dirt. Everybody had a ‘shooter’.
Shooters are designated marbles used to knock targets out of the
ring. Yourshooter
would be larger than the other marbles so it'd be powerful enough
to do its job. It would also look different from other marbles
so you could distinguish it more easily. They usually came in really
cool designs and colors, some times they were metallic. We would
place any marbles we wished to play with as targets inside the
circle; the other player did the same. When it was your turn, you
would shoot by kneeling on the ground outside the ring and flick
your shooter out of your fist with your thumb at any marble or
marbles inside the ring. If you knocked any marbles out of the
ring you could
shoot again. The next player shoots if you haven't knocked any
marbles out and/or your shooter remains in the ring. If the opponent’s
shooter is inside the circle after a miss, it is considered to
be fair game. It is more difficult to knock a shooter out of the
ring because it is bigger and heavier. Both players continue shooting
in turn until the ring is empty. If you managed to propel your
opponent’s shooter out of the
ring, you’d win all the marbles that had been previously
been knocked out, including that shooter. I developed my hand eye
coordination skills by playing marbles.
.....By the time I was ten I had
captured the largest collection of 'shooters' which made me the
neighbor Champ.
My mother used to ask me, "where did you
get all these marbles!" I
used to bring home large bags of them several times a week. I didn't
dare tell her I was playing in the dirt every day in the sweet
little dresses I had to wear to school. But when I turned twelve
I was highly criticized for playing marbles in the dirt by both
the neighborhood boys and their mothers. I was embarrassed into
quitting.
.....When
I was thirteen I discovered pin ball machines. That became my new
obsession. It cost money to play so I had to figure out ways to
earn. With my older brother, Chuck, I raked leaves, shoveled snow,
mowed lawns. Eventually, I delivered newspapers, and in due course
was allowed to babysit. There was a problem though with playing
marbles and a lesson to be learned. The same boys I played marbles
with also played pin ball. They remembered me. I had always had
a great relationship with them. That’s
why I couldn’t
understand why they would ‘tilt’ the
machine on me while I was playing pin ball with them. At first
they would apologize and say it was a mistake, but then they were
out right nasty about it. They’d laugh and tell me I wasn’t
supposed to be there playing. After that I had to sneak to play,
carefully looking in the window to see if anyone was around before
I went into the candy store.
.....In high school,
I was fascinated by the school letter that adorned the sweaters
that the male athletes wore. I wanted that letter. Any girl in
school who wore the school's white sweater with the school letter
had gotten it because she was dating one of the boys; it was actually
his letter. I wanted to earn mine. I asked the gym teacher how
I could earn the school letter. Any boy in the school could earn
the letter by playing on any varsity team for two years. That meant
by the end of his sophomore year most male athletes had their letter.
It was different for girls. A female had to play five sports for
four years to get her letter. I played basketball, volleyball,
gymnastics, softball and bowling. In those days, the gym teachers
did not take women’s
sports seriously. The group of girls I played with were given a
short description of the rules of the games, given the ball and
then the teacher disappeared into her office. We were only allowed
to play in half the gym. The other half of the gym was being used
by the boys. No one taught us ‘how’ to
hit or throw a ball. In basketball, after dribbling two steps we
had to pass the ball to another player so we didn’t strain
ourselves. Gymnastics was a joke because we were allowed on the
gymnastic equipment but never taught anything about it. My friends
and I used to swing and jump as best we could without instruction.
If the boys’ athletics
department needed the entire gym to practice for a big game we
were ousted from the space. Despite all that, playing sports was
a lot of fun and kept me and my friends out of trouble. We never
smoked or drank because we wanted to play well. And we never got
into trouble with the authorities. We were good kids.
.....My school letter was handed to
me, along with my high school diploma at my graduation ceremony.
I still have it in the same original packaging that it was given
to me. After high school was over, there really was no place to
wear it anymore. I do take pride in the fact that I was, at that
time, one of only ten girls to ever earn a school letter in the
history of my high school.
.....After graduating
high school, I got a job as a receptionist down by Wall Street
and moved out of my parents’ home. I
wasn’t
into politics and knew little about the various social movements
that were growing around me. However, I was aware that I had low
self esteem. Around that time, I met Donna Gottschalk (now Donna
Bacchiochi). Donna is an artist, poet, musician and an intellectual.
We became best friends and room mates. Donna showed me that New
York was an exciting place to be in the 60s (it still is). NYC
was a complex of inter-related cultural and political trends. We
went to museums, attended lectures and concerts. I was introduced
to foreign and avant-garde films. Reading was always a passion
for me so Donna gave me books to read, especially ones written
by women. I came into a little bit of money and she encouraged
me to go to Europe. I visited Ireland, England, Belgium, Netherland
and France. While I was in London, I had gone to the movies with
some Londoners. They pointed out to me that Billie Jean King and
Rosie Casals were sitting right in front of us.
From them,
I learned about
Billie Jean and her struggle to increase the prize money for
women’s
tennis and elevate the status of women in society. I felt an immediate
solidarity with women tennis players because of my own experiences
regarding women and sports.
When I got
back from Europe in 1971, NYC was rocking with marches, conscious raising groups,
and social political gatherings. The 1960s had become synonymous with all
the new, exciting, radical, and subversive events and trends of the period,
which continued to develop in the 1970s, 1980s, 1990s and beyond. According
to the internet, in the United States, "The
Sixties", is a term used by historians,
journalists, and other objective academics; in some cases nostalgically to
describe the counterculture and social revolution near the end of the decade;
and pejoratively to describe the era as one of irresponsible excess and flamboyance.
The decade was also labeled the Swinging Sixties because of the libertine attitudes
that emerged during this decade. Rampant recreational drug use and casual sex
has become inextricably associated with the counterculture of the era. The
focus for me was on the fight against sexist attitudes towards women in the
work place, on the playing field and in their everyday lives.
.....I
could identify with what I heard other women saying because I felt all my life
that I as being told I couldn't "do" certain
things. I wasn't smart enough or I “shouldn’t" do
particular activities. It wasn't “ladylike”! Donna
encouraged me to go to consciousness rising groups.
I started to feel more self confident. Donna, who was attending
Cooper Union Art School, advised me to further my education. Back
in 1968 she had told me that if I really wanted to go to college,
I would find a way. It took a few years, but I finally managed
to enroll at Long Island University's Brooklyn Center. It was one
of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I loved college.
I loved learning. I loved LIU. I was surprised at my college grades
after being an average student in high school. I was invited into
the honors program in college. I started meeting women who talked
about liberation. And in every classroom women’s studies
was encouraged. I learned about women in literature, art, science,
politics and history. I heard Bella Abzug and Betty Friedan speak
on campus. On TV, I became fascinated by the bold speeches of Shirley
Chisholm and Gloria Steinem. And I celebrated the fact that my
mother was a positive female role-model in my life because she
worked and kept a family. I didn’t
just appreciate those women’s fierceness, I wanted to emulate
it.
.....By the end of my freshman year
I had gotten a work study job with the college photographer, Alan
Tepper. It was a natural undertaking for me. Taking photographs
helped to quench my thirst for hand eye coordination activities.
Not only did Al and I photograph general campus scenes, we shot
public relation situations, sports, and faculty and Board of Trustee
meetings. I matured a lot during that fine period, mainly because
I was exposed to a broader perspective on college, that is,
business politics. When I first arrived on campus I only saw things
from the student’s stand point,
but after attending faculty, administrative board and trustee’s
meetings my views were changing. I learned everybody's point of
view. I began to understand the reasons why the administration
did things a certain way and how the faculty and students thought
about how their campus should be run. I was becoming a more balanced
individual and became a managerial thinker. Little did I know I
was on the road towards building a powerful womens organization.
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