moment dedicated to my dear Cousin Susen
Susen Dougherty Kreger
…..Some of the most pleasurable
memories I have as a kid were the times I spent with my cousins.
Whenever I reminisce about ages 6 to 18 my thoughts always include
them. There is nothing serious about those times. No disasters,
nothing negative happened. It was always a lot of fun to visit
with the cousins. My Aunt Marguerite and Uncle Fred owned a large
home with a huge backyard. Besides plenty of lawn, there were lots
of trees and even a small brook running through the property. It
was a children’s paradise.
Upon arrival at my aunt and uncle’s home, all the cousins,
happily, headed for the yard.
was a mixture of ages and personality types, and we all liked one
another. For the most part, the eldest hung out together, and then
there was the middle group which included me, and then the youngest,
which included my cousins Richard and Susen. Little Marguerite
was still a baby and stayed in the house with the adults.
my reflections turn to my cousin Susen the adjective that comes
to mind is quiet. She always participated in the activities but
in a calm and hushed manner. In her youth, she was a member of
the New Jersey Ballet Company which
matched her personality quite well. As the years went by, I infrequently
saw my cousins. We all attended the weddings and family gatherings
and always celebrated seeing one another. Then a few years ago,
I became involved with the computer industry and Susen and I found
a rejuvenated bond. I was on the IT desktop side; she was on the
more creative user side of the industry as a graphics designer.
working with Photoshop, Illustrator, PowerPoint and web designer
programs like Homesite and Dreamweaver. I was a beginner when it
comes to those programs while Susen was a full fledged expert.
She was always encouraging me to get started on my website. We
shared many a conversation about how to enhance my photos and utilize
creative software for my up and coming website which took ten years
to get off the ground. My fault, of course. I was always busy with
other things and there was a bit of anxiousness about taking on
unfamiliar software. And eventually, I did get started as you well
know Dear Reader.
…..It is with great sadness that I have
to announce the one year anniversary of Susen Dougherty Kreger’s
passing on February 12, 2010. It was a sudden accident. We are
all still in shock. I can finally express some of my thoughts on
the subject. What impressed me the most when I arrived at the funeral
parlor was that I could hardly get in the door because of all the
people who were there to rejoice in knowing Susen. There
were over two hundred mourners at the Doyle Funeral Home in Morristown,
NJ. I am grateful that they made room for me to go in as I was
a direct relative. Besides our family, there were folks from her
work place and others from the group she rode horses with. Susen’s
horse, Alabama, had passed a few months before. Another poignant
moment my cousin and I had communicated. I was surprised to find
out she rode a Harley-Davidson. Susen was also an avid horse rider
who loved cats and other animals as much as I do. It was one more
bond we had shared.
….. She was dedicated to her mother,
Elizabeth Shirley McCauley Dougherty, our Aunt Bette.
We love her for that and more. We all miss Susen. I keep her picture
on my fridge which reminds me of her every day. It saddens all
of us that someone so young has been taken from our family. And
yet there are many times I smile and remember all the wonderful
moments the cousins all shared with Susen.